I really am. I don't know who to credit for the above but I do know how it resonates with me. It means don't invite me to the christening of your children or their birthday parties, don't tell me to call you if I need help moving heavy things, don't put yourself on the hook for heroics at all. Just be the valued aquaintance you are. If you insist on having a label that doesn't fit our relationship, we won't have any relationship to label because I can't take the strain of having obligations to people that I don't even know that well and who I don't feel get me on any level. If these relationships were marriages, we would have long parted ways, amicably. I don't hate you or even dislike you but sincerely, we're taking up space in eachother's lives that could be filled with something more meaninful for us both. We go more than weeks, we go months, and it's fine. Our lives and interests don't naturally intersect. So let's go a couple more weeks, a few more months, and see if it isn't just fine not having that obligation to check in; to ask questions like a reporter, to get invested in whatever is the current event so you have something to reference a few months from now when we talk again. Let's let it slip to Christmas and sometimes birthdays (when we remember). 1-2 times a year; nothing in betewen, staying in a hotel when in the same town, seeing you for dinner, hiting the highlights. Always so lovely to see you.
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